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Modern Parenting Has Lost It’s Damn Mind

Modern Parenting Has Lost It's Damn Mind

Sometime between when we were children and when we had children of our own, parenting lost it’s mind. Modern parenting is a mad business and is one big heap of information overload. Parenting has become a job and you damned well better be qualified – or else. Or else what? We don’t know, but we are not about to find out!

So we grind our teeth and try to improve at this job which lacks a proper job description, has no salary and no career prospects whatsoever. There is also no exit plan or annual leave… you just carry on and hope you are not ruining your child’s’ life.

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Photo credit: www.celebritybabyscoop.com

Parents today are faced with a million different crazy passionate arguments for why we’re completely screwing up our kids by not adhering to whatever child-rearing methodology is currently the hottest trend or ranks the highest on Google Search.

My daughter will be turning 5-years old in January, and I already feel like the advice for pregnant women has shifted all over the place multiple times since then.

Modern Parenting Has Lost It's Damn Mind

Pregnancy truly seems like one big scary game of Russian Roulette  (where whatever food/activity/medicine/household toxin you expose yourself to next leads directly to pediatric cancer or childhood deformity). Sounds bad? Well, that’s nothing compared to how you can screw up your kids once they’re outside your womb.

Did you co-sleep, or let them cry it out? Did you breastfeed or bottle feed? Did you use disposable nappies or cloth? What baby products did you use? Did you Vaccinate or let nature take it’s course? Are you raising little banters or gluten-free warriors? Did you practice instinctive parenting, attachment parenting, helicopter parenting, authoritative parenting, permissive parenting or conscious parenting?

Either way you are screwing up in the eyes of society and are almost certainly raising a sociopath. Let’s hope he’s the handsome, humble, convincingly charming type like Dexter.

“Raising children is a fear-based industry. It’s INSANITY! So I haven’t READ anything, I’ll let her do her OWN thing” – Emily Blunt (Net-a-porter Interview)

Assuming you manage to not cause too much permanent damage, physically or psychologically, during the baby and toddler years – you are bound to drop the ball once they’re older. You thought standing in the baby food aisle contemplating the branded choices before you was bad enough… (wait, what? you BOUGHT baby food?) wait until your kid comes home one day crying about being bullied at school and you have to decide whether to tell him to take the high road or kick that little jerk right in the stomach.

Bath your kids every day and make them wash those dirty little hands – it is the only way to prevent disease! No wait! They need to get dirty exposure to all allergens and bacteria, it lowers the risk of autoimmune disorders! Do you let them play outside? Good mom! Free play nurtures creativity and research shows that too much screen time can impact social interaction and blah blah blah.

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Not only do we have to worry about racism, xenophobia, hijackings and gun violence – but thanks to the news, talk shows, parenting magazines, and even mom blogs – we are always hearing of products and foods that we should and should NOT give our kids.

Recalls on foods, toys and baby gear are always being sent to me via email and Facebook links. It is a good thing in today’s world that we are now learning of better ways to protect our children. But sometimes, it can just be too much… I mean, we survived?

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Apparently apple juice is bad for your kids because it has arsenic in it, but I grew up drinking apple juice and I let my daughter drink apple juice – so now, knowing what I know… do I let my second child drink apple juice? Do I let my toddler continue? Is it even true? Who the hell knows? We even have to question what milk our kids should be drinking – if they should be drinking milk at all.

My mom made me drink a glass of milk every night at dinner. Now, we’re told that the growth hormones in milk aren’t good for kids, so I have to spend a fortune on organic milk. These are silly little examples, but sjoe… my brain!

Most people will tell you to not read too much into every little thing, but it is so hard. Especially for new moms – how do you not try to take every single precaution? How do you separate facts from fiction?

The bottom line is, as a parent, no matter what you decide to do — seriously, hear me on this: no matter what you decide to do — someone somewhere is going to be convinced you’re doing it wrong.

Just keep doing the best you can, the best you know how. Love your baby and love yourself. By doing that you are already doing a great job!

How do you deal with the over-saturation of advice and information on parenting?

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17 thoughts on “Modern Parenting Has Lost It’s Damn Mind

  1. Sharon says:

    How do I deal with it? Mostly I’ve learned to just ignore the constant bombardment and information overload and do what feels right for my children. Its completely overwhelming and I stopped listening or paying attention when I was still a very new mom because I couldn’t take it and was constantly feeling like I wasn’t good enough!

  2. Ashley says:

    I think the things that new mom’s need to realise is that we’re alive. Our moms drank coffee and ate all kinds of seafood when they were pregnant with us. They put us in walking rings, got us vaccinated and fed us dairy from very early on. There was no such thing as “organic” unless your mom grew it herself.

    I’m a new mom, my little one is 5.5 months old and I read absolutely everything I can on parenting… the thing is though, I take it all with a pinch of salt. Vaccine’s are my biggest bug-bear, but I’ll move on from that one. I tend to ask myself, what did my mom do, do I think that I’m better/worse off because of it and is there a better alternative. My mom made all of my baby food, something which I don’t have the time for, so I’ve opted for organic baby food, but really, how big of a difference can it actually make if I buy the Olli Organic vs the Purity? And honestly, as long as my child is fed, who the hell cares?

    At the end of the day, no matter what choice you make, yes in the eyes of someone you will be doing it wrong, but my theory is that if you have a happy, healthy kid, you’re doing it right!

  3. Chastin Dreyer says:

    Just a side not it is the apple pips that contain trace amounts of cyanide, the problem with cyanide is that it never leaves your system it builds and builds and can eventually kill you having said that when I eat an apple I eat the entire apple seeds included and have been doing so for at least 10 years no issues here so far, so Im pretty sure you’re good on the apple juice =)

  4. stephanie videira says:

    all the info out is so much and everyone has the opinions this is right this is wrong blaaa blaa blaa, doing what you think is right is what best for ur child, when my baba was born i read way to much of all the info i could get my hands on and it just confused the hell out of me now i just go with my gut feeling or ask my mom, as long as our kids our loved and fed they will be fine 🙂

  5. Robyn says:

    I have taken to not asking for advise any more purely because all the different opinions are a)overwhelming and b)almost always lead to a heated and often ugly argument between those providing their thoughts.

    I instead look back on how I was raised, using my own parents as examples. I am still trying to overcome my habit of comparing myself to other moms, this is the one area where I always fall short and I end up feeling far less confident in my abilities as a mother, but that’s also why I’m still seeing my psychologist, so I’m sure I’ll come right eventually 😉

    • Maz says:

      Thank you for reading Yvonne ♥ I’m glad you enjoyed the post and that you left feeling like you have someone that is going through the same thing ♥

  6. Manisha says:

    I generally let my child be the guide and go with the follow…simply loved the article there is absolutely no manual that comes with raising your child.

  7. Elsabé says:

    ” Just keep doing the best you can, the best you know how. Love your baby and love yourself. By doing that you are already doing a great job!?

    Absolutely!! I just went and got a whole new blog cause I was so in the middle of all these thoughts that my brain literally couldn’t keep up anymore!!! Moving myself over to crafts… keep my hands busy to take my mind off this friggin thing called parenting!!!

  8. Monique says:

    Such an interesting article Maz, especially as a pregnant mommy. Lots to think about and I’m definitely going to take advice with a pinch of salt and try work out what will work for me and baby. In all of this I think I can also learn to be less judgmental of parents, especially because I’m not one just yet. Everyone is doing the best they can and that’s all that matters! Xxx

  9. Melory says:

    A friend of mine told me about this blog. Well I am left smiling, because you’ve hit the nail on the head! What a great read. Thank you… Worrying about that damn apple juice now…

    • Maz says:

      I am so glad you have joined us – welcome to my little space on the Internet! And don’t worry about the apple juice – after closely monitoring my kids I can say for certain that they are relatively normal – apple juice and all.

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